Dec Jan Edition #142

Dec Jan Edition #142

Cover Artist: Maria Patricia Fair

Cover Title: May All Being Be Happy

Medium: Mixed

Prints for sale: Available from A4 $45 / A3 $85 / A2 $120

Contact: patriciamariafair@hotmail.com

These recent, colourful illustrations of children’s faces are from the series ‘May all Beings be Happy’. The inspiration arose while drawing an African portrait in pencil (Africa being where i grew up). I felt a deep movement in my heart to express the Oneness/Unity of all Beings - beyond the conditioning of culture, religion and gender. The children represent the innocence - prior to concepts of identification and separation. For me art is an ongoing expression, ever deepening ; moving through the layers of mind/conditioning to that place of ‘No-Mind’. It is a bringing into form the Knowing of That - One Heart. The totality in which this life is lived makes all experiences - whether wild or gentle, a divine creative expression, a celebration of life.

Self-acceptance is the willingness to accept yourself exactly as you are. Where do you start? You start wherever you are right now.

In 1910, a baby called Lester Levenson was born in the USA. He was a bright child, worked hard at school and then, in his own words, ‘Battled my way through life like everyone else’. He developed many physical illnesses, and at age 42 had two massive heart attacks. In 1952 there were no ‘miracle treatments’ - he was told that his condition was terminal, and even being totally inactive, had only weeks to live. Since he had to be inactive, he began to contemplate his life: he recognised that he had been looking for happiness all his life, and that he equated happiness with being loved. His life was strongly directed towards getting recognition, acceptance and approval from others. His second great insight was that he felt the most positive when he was being loving, rather than being loved. He began working on recognising all of the situations, past and present, about which he had un-loving feelings – anger, fear, frustration etc – and finding a way to change those feelings to loving. He worked on this continuously, day and night, for three months, and in this time, all his illnesses were cured. He lived to the age of 84, is said to never have visited a doctor again, and spent the rest of his life teaching what he had discovered.

Ask yourself two questions now: ‘Who am I?’ and, ‘How do I feel about myself?’

We come into this life as tiny, helpless beings, and even if we have had countless previous incarnations, most of us have no memory of these, and had to start from scratch finding out about ourselves and this physical life. Very quickly, through our experiences and our interactions with parent figures, siblings, teachers and others, we built a picture of who we were, of what we perceived others expected of us, and of how well we matched up to these expectations. The picture we formed is not who we really are, but it became the basis of our ego, which one dictionary defines as, ‘A collection of beliefs about oneself that embodies the answer to “Who am I?"’. These ideas and beliefs become entrenched in our subconscious mind by the time we are around seven years old, and are the source of that ‘voice in the head’ that tells us how we should be, in what ways we’re not good enough, and how we should live our life.

Real love is an attitude: acceptance of others exactly as they are, recognising in them the infinite love that is also within us. Infinite love is who we all are. In order to develop this attitude to others, you need love yourself.

Loving ourselves should be easy, because we are love. But it doesn’t seem this way when the love is hidden under limiting (un-loving) thoughts and feelings – ‘I’m not good enough’; ‘I messed that up’; ‘I’m too fat/short/old’. For much of our life we strive to achieve our mind’s description of who we should be, and we use busyness, TV, drugs, sex or whatever else, to suppress feelings of frustration, unhappiness and unworthiness. The secret is not to suppress these feelings and thoughts, but to face them, so we can release them. As you read these words, you might be aware that you have certain thoughts and/or feelings – perhaps it sounds too hard, or the idea of confronting your un-loving feelings is scary. This is your mind resisting, and you can use this awareness to help you to love yourself.

Loving yourself

These are steps to living a life of love:

  • Think about a current situation that is unpleasant for you. What feeling does this bring up in you? Instead of trying to push it away, let yourself really feel it – and feel where it sits in your body. Say to yourself, ‘Even though I’m feeling xxx, I love and accept myself’... Then repeat, ‘I love and accept myself’, and feel the love.
  • Allow the un-loving feeling to be there; understand that your ego has created this feeling to help you be the person it believes you should be. Knowing this, are you willing to accept this feeling, to say ‘yes’ to the feeling?... Say ‘yes’ to the feeling again? … And again? … And once again?
  • Now are you willing to give it some love? To say, ‘I love you, fear (or anger, frustration, guilt etc.)’? To give it more love … and more … and more … and even more.
  • Now tune into your body – the feeling is probably less strong than it was before. Whatever of it is left, imagine a little open window in your body where the feeling is sitting, and release it. It is just energy; with love, release it to move away and dissipate.
  • And give yourself love.

Give yourself the intention, ‘I allow myself to live a life of unbroken love’. Love yourself constantly, whenever you become aware of having an un-loving feeling, and let love come back to you in its many forms.

Annabel Muis

Annabel has worked as a social worker and human resource consultant, and is an experienced Reiki practitioner and Reiki teacher. Contact: 07 4093 8937; annabel.muis@gmail.com

 

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